指自己时要指鼻头
如果你要说:"我这个人……",而要指自己的话,你的手指头应指着鼻子,而不可指到别的地方去。这和中国人的习惯大致相同。
招手叫人时要把手掌心向着自己
要招呼距稍远之人,不是要大声喊一下,就是招招手示意,而东方人一向的习惯是手掌向人摆动招手,这在欧美各国看来是不礼貌的。在美国或欧洲,如果摆出东方人惯有的招手手势,会被误以为是"再见"。如果手势再稍微变化一下,就含有嘲笑的意味。
东方人的许多手势与欧美人不尽相同,故也易于引起误会,要招手叫人时,应该手掌向上,并且向着自己的一边,轻轻地变屈食指和中指,不必拼命做很多次,只要让对方看到就行。各国常有不同的动作,表示不同的意义,所以到国外时不得不注意。
有牙签也不可用
通常欧洲式的餐桌上都不准备牙签的。即使餐桌上有牙签,也不可在餐桌上使用。如果说你有使用牙签的习惯,那么最好到洗手间去解决,否则当着饭桌上的客人,张开口来剔牙,实在有碍观瞻,而且也不礼貌。
然而牙签的用处,确有其功效,有个中国人去赴晚宴,餐后很想用牙签,但不好意思也不便当着众人面前使用,逐飞也似地钻进洗手间,从口袋中拿出牙签来,而他的一位外国朋友刚好也在那里,看见他的牙签,便说,"原来你有这种好东西!"说着就把他的牙签抢走了。可见并不是大家不喜欢用牙签,而是为了礼貌,避免在席上用罢了!
弄脏了桌子时的礼貌
餐桌上礼仪的最高原则是"如同王侯贵族般地行动"。所以,任何都不要自己去做,即使膝盖上的餐巾落地下,也要让服务生捡起,并且尽量不要让别的客人知道才算是礼貌。无论主人或别的客人,遇到这种情形时,也都要视若无睹。
但是,到普通家庭赴宴时,有时没有服务生,就要自己动手去收拾,如果不小心碰倒了桌上的饮料,就先暂时把餐巾铺在弄湿的地方上,把它吸干净,在女主人站起来帮你手之前,适当地处理好。(中国进出口网整理翻译)
To point yourself to point your nose
If you say, "I am ......", meanwhile point yourself, you’d better point the nose, and this is a habit as same as Chinese people’s.
When waving, put palm toward yourself
To greet a person far away from you, do not shout, just beckon, and Asians have the habit of swinging palms waving to people, which is impolite for part of the United States and Europe. In the United States or Europe, if you put Asians’ usual waving gesture, it would be mistaken for “Goodbye”.If the gesture change a little bit, it meant ridicule.
Many gestures of Asians are different from Europeans’, so it is easy to cause misunderstanding. When waving, you should put palm upward and toward yourself and then gently bend the index and middle finger change, do not do a lot of times, as long as let the other see. Different states often have different actions which have different meanings, so pay attention to your action when abroad.
No toothpick
There is always no toothpick at tables in Europe. Even if there is, you can not use it at tables. If you have the habit of using a toothpick, then it is best to go to the toilet to use, otherwise it is rude to use a toothpick in front of the guests.
However, the toothpick have its own usage. A Chinese person once went to dinner. after meals, he would like to use a toothpick, but not liked to use it in front of the front of the crowd, so he got into the bathroom, and get out of pocket toothpicks. while one of his foreign friends was there seeing his toothpick, the foreign friend said, "You have this good stuff!" Then the foreign friend robbed his toothpick. Therefore, it is wrong that foreigners do not like toothpicks, they’re just in courtesy and avoid using them at tables!
courtesy when you dirty a table
Table manners’ highest principle is "act as a prince." So, do not do it yourself, even napkins flow on the floor, let the waiter pick up, and try not to let the other guests know. Whether the owner or other guests, in which case, it should turn a blind eye.
However, when you go to a average family dinner, there is no waiter, it is necessary to clean up by yourself. If you knock over the table drinks, you should put a napkin. You’d better finish it before the hostess stands up.